The shadow self is an aspect of us we choose not to look at, it’s where we carry the greatest pain and contains the parts of us we don’t want to accept. However, when we actively seek to heal and accept darkness within as we cultivate self awareness, we find the missing fragments of our deeper self and become more whole as a person.
Fear plays a significant part in keeping the shadow self hidden. It’s why many of us would rather numb our senses than face the aspects of us that need healing. As we shine a light on darkness within and release the barriers around our hearts, we come closer to revealing our authentic self and begin to feel more unconditional love.
To love conditionally leaves us susceptible to experience pain, as certain conditions are not met, so too does the divine connection that heals and unifies us gets severed. To love unconditionally, however, allows for ease, grace, and divinity to become a common part of our everyday experience.
Sure it’s wise to discern and remove ourselves from situations that may harm us or isn’t to our benefit, but in the midst of the chaos, can we maintain the fire that burns through the illusions of ego, negative beliefs, and expectations? Can we allow love to transform and take shape into something else entirely when challenges arise?
The power of unconditional love has all too often been placed in the hands of those who seem infallible, gurus, spiritual teachers, gods even, but is it possible to integrate this godly ability in ourselves? To put no expectations or conditions upon life and all its creations, despite our flaws?
As I learn how to integrate the dark aspects within me, I am finding how powerful it can be to forgive myself. Without forgiveness, I cannot release the anchors that bind me to the patterns and behaviors which bring distress and heartache into my life.
– Dan Iwanicki